|10 Tips For Parents to Deal with Teenagers – SocialSkill|
Your daughter or son used to share her or his all the works, feelings, and secrets with you. Your child used to be a bubbly and a Happy child but suddenly his or her attitude has changed. You may find yourself in a dilemma: why has your child become arrogant? Why is your child behaving so rudely? Why has he or she become impatient? You might have noticed that till the age of 10 years everything was okay but instantly everything changed when your child turned 12. You would be unanswerable to these questions, but do you know why all this is happening? It is because your child is going through adolescence where the above-listed problems are usual and natural and thinking that these situations are normal and natural and let them as it is, they may destroy the life of your child. I hope none of the parents can take such a huge risk.
Now you may be worried about how you can deal with teenagers? For the smooth and better life of your child, sometimes you may take decisions that prove out fatal, and instead of improving the conditions, it can deepen the gap between you and your child. So to avoid all these conditions.
Here are some tips that would help the parents to take the question“How to Deal with Teenagers? “
1. Become a friend of your child:
It is observed that teenagers do not share their feelings with their parents because of the generation gap. Teenagers assume that I will not understand their feelings and apart from this parents would scold them. So to kill this kind of assumption, become a friend of your child.try to ask your child about his or her problems and worries and try to establish a bond of friendship between you and your child.
2. Communicate with your child:
Communication is that link which bridges even the large gaps.communication is that link which can bridge up the gap of generation between you and your child. You might have noticed that even a talkative child turns into a silent child in the age of adolescence. Try to set up a communication with your child which can solve many problems by just speaking with your child.
3. Be aware of the friend circle of your child:
Parents really pay attention to the company of their children. Parents are hardly aware of the friend circle of their child. As a result of not keeping an eye on your child’s company, they get spoiled. they may adopt some bad habits of drinking alcohol or smoking or both. They may get involved in thefts. So to keep the future safety of your child, keep an eye on them.
4. Do not establish too many restrictions on your child:
out of concern and worry for the child, you may apply too many restrictions and sometimes even unnecessary boundations. These restrictions irritate the child.these restrictions prevent them from speaking to you and as a result of which a child gets irritated not with the restriction but from “you”. Should not imply unnecessary boundations on your child.
5. Do not interrogate too much:
we as a parent have the habit of asking so many questions from the children as,” where are you going? “, “With whom you are going?”,”When will you return home?” And in the end, you will find your child not answering your questions. The children start neglecting you, which widens the gap so do not interrogate too much.
6. Keep a regular check:
Stop asking questions does not mean you stop keeping a check on your child. Even parents should go to the school and enquire from the teachers about the child.parents should enquire about the conduct and behavior of their child in the school and with his or her fellows and friends. Check the school bag of a child regularly. Hence overall have regular checks on your child so that they may stay on the right path.
7. Give your child external motivation:
the parents should adopt the methodology of scolding the child on his or her wrong deeds and praising or awarding them at their achievement. parents should provide external motivation; external motivation is actually giving gifts or rewards for the achievement of your child. This motivation provides them the courage to do and achieve more.
8. Provide emotional support to your child:
Sometimes your child suffers from emotional setbacks. More than your support of words, your child needs emotional support of yours. You should be warmly asking your child about his or her worries and problems, because in teenage children’s go through many physical and mental changes and growth, due to these hormonal changes they suffer from mood swings, so sit with your child and talk friendly and warmly with him or her.
9. Educate your child about “adult education”:
Giving “Adult Education” is not a matter of shame. Educating your child about “Adult Education” prevents them from getting into the trap of wrong deeds. Children should be aware of what is wrong ? and what is right? knowing this, children will not commit anything wrong. Let your child be open with you and talk and ask questions regarding “Adult Education”.
10. Train your child to tackle with failures:
If any of us face failures then we easily get disheartened and lose hope. Now imagine if a child gets to face any failure then how would it feel like to him or her? Make your child understand the opportunities and hurdles of life, tell them that failures are a part of life, and never to lose hope.
In this present modern era, the most difficult task is ” to be a parent “. We are often worried that how we can deal with our children can provide them the right advice and suggestions. So this article is going to help you up to a large extent.there have been provided you the most practical ways to deal with your teenage children.